Burnt by Love

 

I wanna focus on Finn‘s love story with the flavor princess for this. His goal complex is following the usual hierarchical model with the top level being his reasons for goal pursuit, which start out as introjected; he’s doing boyfriend things to earn approval and avoid guilt rather than because he truly values the work of their relationship. This reason pairs with the achievement motive called Hope or success, which is a general expectation that things will work out in the end, making him have performance approach goals, where the aim is to make him look competent and move towards a visible win. He’s doing things very big show gestures and quick fixes to prove that he is a great partner. Later, jealousy blows up the motive, and he starts to lead towards fear of failure, which is a general expectation of messing up, so his goals shift to performance avoidance, where he is trying to prevent looking incompetent, so he hides his feelings and dodges hard talks. As he matures, his recent changes from borrowed approval to valuing her well-being and the relationship itself, which brings him into mastery goals, for the point is to get better rather than just look good. We then start the journey of rebuilding this relationship, and the hope for success gradually comes back, and with that comes mastery of approach goals; he is practicing boundaries. He’s acknowledging his mistakes, and he’s planning for the future. Finn is a very strong character mentally, and he does not get taken down by setbacks; he overcomes them, and he gets better.